Momming: The act where one sole individual divides their time between laundry, play, kissing away owies and gift wrapping empty boxes, so when their child misbehaves they can throw said boxes into the fire. #lifelessons

Ok, I guess the good moms don’t convince their kids they are burning their Christmas gifts, but I’ve had parenting moments that have sure tempted me. Life with kids is cray.

My life, as a mom and as a person, is full of struggles. I enjoy fashion and I enjoy passing my finds along, but you’ll find worry, anxiety, defeat, frustration and  s̶c̶r̶e̶a̶m̶i̶n̶g̶ loud talking at my kids behind it all. So, don’t let social media tell you different.

I came across this anonymously well-written piece on the hardship of motherhood + I love it so much I’m passing it along. I hope you love it just as much. I feel like this chick knows me.

 

“This stage of life. It’s hard…
I’m talking right now to you moms who are in your late 20’s to mid 30’s. You have kids. Likely two, three, maybe four of them. They probably range in age from newborns to 7 or 8 year-olds. (Give or take a few, on all of the above mentioned stats). In this stage of life, you are dealing with exhaustion. Mental, physical, and emotional.

In this stage of life, you are dealing with teething. With ear infections. With stomach viruses. You are juggling nap schedules, and feeding schedules and soccer schedules. A million balls you are juggling, and you probably feel like you are dropping most of them.

In this stage of life, you are dealing with guilt. Guilt over having a career, and not spending enough time with your kids, or guilt over staying home with your kids, and not doing enough to contribute financially. Guilt over being too harsh with your kids. Too lenient. Guilt that your house is clean, but your kids were ignored, or guilt that you enjoyed your children all day, and now your husband is coming home to filth. Guilt.

In this stage of life, you are bombarded daily with a whole host of decisions. Some of them life-changing, some of them not. None of them with clear cut answers. Do I vaccinate my kids? Do I not? Do I send them to public school? Homeschool? Charter school? Do I continue to breastfeed? Do I blow the budget so that I can buy all organic? Do I force my child to apologize, even though the apology will be insincere? You don’t know the answers to ANYTHING, but you feel constant pressure to figure out EVERYTHING.

This stage of life is less and less about watching your friends get married and have babies, and more and more about standing by and witnessing your friends struggle in their marriage, and even get divorced. It’s a stage where you’ve got to put in the time and the effort and the work and the energy to make sure your OWN marriage stays healthy. And that’s good, but it’s hard, too. At this point, you or someone you know has experienced infertility. Miscarriages. Loss of a child.

It’s a stage where you are buying houses, selling houses, remodeling houses, packing up houses. And then you do it all again a few years later.

It’s a stage where your hormones are all out of whack. I mean, you’ve basically been pregnant, postpartum, or breastfeeding for the last ten years, right?

It’s a stage where you are struggling with identity. Is my entire identity “mommy?” Is there anything even left of me that isn’t about mothering? Is there something more glamorous I could have/should have done with my life? I LOOK like a mom now, don’t I? I totally do.

It’s a stage where you are on a constant quest for balance, and can never find it.

It’s a stage of life where you are overloaded. Constantly. You are overloaded with questions. Your children never stop asking them. You are overloaded with touch. Someone is constantly wanting to be held, holding on to you, hanging on you, touching you. You are overloaded with to-do’s. There is so much to do. It never ends. You are overloaded with worry. You are overloaded with THINGS. Your kids have way too many toys. You are overloaded with activities. You are overloaded with THOUGHTS (thoughts about how to not be so overloaded, perhaps?). It’s hard.

So….what do you need to do to survive it all?

You need to ask for help.

You need to accept help when it’s given.

You need to not neglect your marriage. You need to put your kids down for bed early. Sit outside on the back porch with your husband, drink a glass of wine, and have a conversation.

You need girlfriends.

You need your mom.

You need older friends, who have been there and done that. Who can reassure you that you AREN’T screwing it all up as badly as you think you are.

You need to not feel bad about using your kids nap time every now and again to just do whatever the heck you want.

You need to lower your expectations….then probably lower them again.

You need to simplify. Simplify every single part of your life, as much as it can be simplified.

You need to learn how to say “no.”

You need to practice contentment.

You need to be ok leaving your kids overnight, and going away somewhere. Anywhere.

You need to do something you enjoy everyday, even if it’s for no more than 15 minutes.

You need to pray. Girl, you need to pray.

You need a coffee you love, a wine you love, and a bubble bath that you love.

Finally, and maybe most importantly, you need to remember that….. ….this stage of life is beautiful, too. Like, really really beautiful. This is the stage of life where every single older person you ever meet tells you, “you’re going to miss this”. And you already know it’s true. It’s the stage where your kids love you more than they are EVER going to love you again, for the whole rest of your life. It’s the stage where they can fit their entire selves into your lap to snuggle…and they want to. It’s the stage where their biggest problems ARE ear infections and teething and stomach viruses, and you’re not having to deal yet with things like broken hearts or addiction or bullying. It’s the stage where you are learning to love your spouse in an entirely different….harder…..better…. way. The stage where you are learning together, being stretched together, shedding your selfishness together, and TRULY being made into “one”. It’s the stage where you get to see Christmas, Halloween and the Fourth of July through your kids eyes, and it’s so much more fun and magical than it would be just through your own eyes. It’s the stage where you get to watch your parents be grandparents…and they’re really good at it. It’s the stage of life filled with field trips, class parties, costumes, swim lessons, bubble baths, dance parties, loose teeth, and first steps. And those things are so fun. It’s the stage where you are young enough to have fun, and old enough to have obtained at least SOME wisdom. It’s SUCH a great stage.

But, man it’s hard.” –Anonymous

 

It’s a hard thing. You’re doing a good job. ♥

PC: Joe Katchka of Katch Moments Photography

 

 

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Top | Pants | Nikes | Halo Hair

I think I have spent more hours at the park, walking trails, doing birthday parties and at playdates than I have spent asleep in my bed. Spending this summer with my 3 and 6 year old has taught me that kids must. be. outside. Busy remains a constant, but it takes on new forms with each season. As we make this summer to fall transition, our days at the park move from the play toy to the soccer fields and our time with friends at parties + playdates becomes time spent on the playground instead.

I’m learning to enjoy + appreciate each season, especially summer. In spite of the crazy, kids do not stop growing and every summer down is one less they will spend at home with us. So, I pack all the snacks and we go do all the things.

With this change of seasons, comes a change in wardrobe. My yoga pants have reemerged and I’m not mad about it. I think lululemon + Zella had us all in mind when they designed some of their seriously cute + functional pieces.

We all need something to wear between the time we spend in jeans and dresses. Enter athleisure. (It’s legit! You can even find it in the dictionary now).

These are some of my favorite staples and worth the $:

  • a few cute sports bras or crops with support
  • comfy pair of cropped yoga pants
  • comfy pair of full length yoga pants
  • a few flowy tops
  • a good pair of Nikes (I always come back to my Nikes! cute + functional)
  • I’ve thrown in some long, soft cardigans for good measure 😉

 

Here are a few of my favorite looks + I think I’m even posting before most of this stuff has sold out! High five!

 

Tank | Apricot Lane | similar (only $23!)

Sports Bra | Zella (aqua is sold out, but they have blue and grey)

Pants | Zella

Sneaks | Nikes (25% off right now!)

Hair | Halo

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Necklace | Stella & Dot

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Duster | Joyfolie ($24.99 right now!)

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Top | lululemon

Pants | Zella

Cardigan | similar

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Go grab some gear and go straight from your workout right into your errands. Where has athleisure been all my life?!

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As summer draws to a close, we’ve all probably overdone it when it comes to eating out + grams of sugar. Don’t even ask me how much ice cream we’ve gone through.. The owner of our Cold Stone should have our picture on the wall.

It’s nice to have a good meal to detox from all the junk, especially as we head into fall!

This works as a snack or an entire meal (we make a dinner out of it). Make it for your next “Meatless Monday!” 🙂

It has the heartiness of fall, but the “condiments” of summer + you can’t mess it up! Adjust any of these measurements to your own taste and call it a win.



FRIES

this amount feeds our fam of 4

6 Large Sweet Potatoes, cut into thin fries

3 Tbsp Chili Powder

3 Tbsp Olive Oil

Juice of 1 Lime (zest optional)

 

GUACAMOLE

2-3 Large Avocados

1 Large Garlic Clove, miced or pressed

Juice of 1/2 Lime (zest optional)

1 Tsp Cumin

Dash of Salt

 

PICO DE GALLO

1 Lb Cherry or Grape Tomatoes

1/2 Jalapeno, seeded

1/2 Bunch Cilantro

1 Clove Garlic

1 Small Onion, chopped

Juice of 1/2 Lime

Dash of Salt

 

for FRIES

  1. Preheat oven to 425°F.
  2. Slice potatoes thinly into fries.
  3. Coat fries with olive oil, chili powder + lime juice.
  4. Roast for 15 minutes then flip over + roast for another 12-15 minutes. Watch them closely so the don’t burn.

for GUACAMOLE

  1. Mash avocado in large bowl.
  2. Add garlic, cumin, salt + lime juice.

for PICO DE GALLO

  1. In a blender (I use my Magic Bullet), roughly puree all ingredients except for onions + cilantro.
  2. Chop onions + add them to your pureed ingredients. If you have picky eaters, only use 1/2 onion and add it in with the puree instead.
  3. With clean kitchen scissors, thinly cut up your washed cilantro bunch + mix into puree.

Pile up your fries with your 2 toppings and e n j o y!

 

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hoodie | grey tee | pom sneaks

The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale ends today! Get your hustle on and grab some of these deals before they are gone tonight!

Since so many of you are fellow mamas, I want to help curb your FOMO (fear of missing out) as this sale comes to a close! I’ve gone through pages of clothing + grabbed a few of my favorite kiddo items still in stock! The items below are mostly toddler and kid sizes, but some baby, and I’ve broken it down into options for girl and boys.

 

GIRLS

I’m a fan of anything metallic right now, and this is the perfect gold skirt for back to school. This gold skirt is equally as adorable! My favorite everyday outfit would consist of these cute shoes + this soft Zella hoodie (my daughter already has one and can’t wait to live in it when the weather changes. Her favorite part is the thumbholes. Ha!)

These cute moto jeans with zippers are to die. Size up!

I’m always a fan of these bow Uggs for girls and you cannot beat this price. And speaking of metallic, I love these gold fringe booties + I may pickup a pair of these pewter booties, too! Also, why don’t these glitter sneaks come in my size??

Every girl needs a white faux fur vest to throw on over sweatshirts, dresses + more.

I’m obsessed with this reversible pink Northface. It’s under $60 and still available in a 2t or size 6!

Check out the crisscross detail on this cardigan. Still available in sizes 7 and 8/10!

You can’t go wrong with an everyday pair of “Chucks.” These Converse run large, so size down. For a laid-back look, I love this jean jacket paired with the shoes!

Love these comfy dark jeggings and, even better, they’re under $20!

Are you even kidding me right now with this too cute dress for fall?! It runs small, so be sure to size up.

Also currently loving the copper zipper on this long Zella hoodie! It would look super cute over these shiny black jeggings.

These little girl Hudson jean leggings are still up for grabs in 2t +3t. These also come in a baby girl version for $20!

And the grand finale.. these black lace up floral Sam Edelman flats are to die! I’d pair them with this olive hooded duster.

 

BOYS

If you have a baby boy, you must get this soft Northface hoodie in your cart! So cute.

I can’t believe this quilted navy + grey hoodie is still available! Grab one in sizes up through 24mos.

Check out these go-with-everything Chuck Taylors for boys! Remember to size down as they run big. These grey joggers look cute on little boys with some Converse and double as pajama pants (which equals less laundry and that’s a win)!

I love a good baseball tee + this one is under $12!

Love this hooded shirt with these red sneaks.

This basic striped tee comes in grey or burgundy and will work great under a heavier collared shirt when the weather cools down.

 

You can check out all my favorites for Women here.

Even if you have already shopped the sale, there’s always more to be found! Good luck from these two on making your final picks. 🙂

 

 

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I love a good outfit and this, my friends, is the power suit of summer.

Having two kids has taught me that summer is no longer a fun break. It’s more of a sweaty circus + I’m convinced the only breaks in parenthood are going to work or taking vacations sans the littles. That being said, summer is still about more friend time + more adventure than what the rest of the year holds for most of us.

Here’s your perfect summer outfit inspo.

I got two compliments on this outfit just walking across a non-crowded parking lot to take these photos.. even with two screaming kids in tow. Most people run from me when the crazy train moves through, so there you go. You need this look in your closet like brownies need ice cream. 😉

Grab your favorite white tank (here’s mine) + shop the rest below to get this look!

 

Duster | This flowy cream duster + this striped flowy duster from Joyfolie are so similar to what I have on and they’re absolutely stunning! This Free People option from Lulus is also gorg. This Sun & Shadow option is also cute + I love this crochet goodness! I also found this cute shorter lace option at Target.

Necklace | Joyfolie

Cutoffs | This darker denim option + this lighter demin are both from Apricot Lane + they’re perfect.

Gladiators | Nordstrom has some cute stuff right now! These beauties are on sale for only $89 + these are super cute in the caramel color. Here is a short wedge option + this shorter caged option is on sale for under $40!

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Hope this drives a little boho inspiration into your summer style. As always, happy shopping!

 

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