I’m pretty sure I just cleaned up the Christmas decorations, and now the tulips that were bulbs in my yard like a second ago are in full bloom! Hey spring.
I’ve spent some time this winter/spring refreshing my house + my mind. One thing I’ve really found myself hashing out is how I really feel about social media.
Have you done this too?
As some of you may have noticed, I took a bit of a hiatus from Insta + blogging last month. Social media is a special kind of monster that can be great at connecting people and great at simultaneously breaking “community” in half.
It’s so connecting, so pretty, but so fake and so addicting.. and the comparison game.. Maybe it was something in the air because many of the bloggers that I follow + love were feeling the same way: to disconnect.
Clothes are fun, but they’re not important. Humans are important. I’ve literally had moments where I questioned whether I should follow/friend someone on social media, because I liked them too much to risk finding new reasons not to. It’s. Weird.
Facebook is full of TMI + Insta is full of “pretty.” It has always been my mission to stay real. My life is not spent on a beach in California or bouncing around Seattle with a full face of makeup. I don’t even bounce.. I probably tromp. And my days are mostly filled with yelling at my kids then feeling guilty later. Not pictured on Insta: real life tromping and mom guilt.
I’ve struggled because I don’t want to showcase my fashion + beauty finds at the expense of wrongly influencing the eyeballs I’m hitting. I don’t want to further this agenda of inferiority that social media breeds.
Any good counselor will tell you that your specific childhood can build into your brain negative beliefs about yourself that are untrue. These are conclusions that you’ve come to (consciously or subconsciously) based on how you perceived something. The result is a false perception of yourself. If your mom spends all her time staring at her tv, your false perception is that you are unimportant to people. I believe social media fosters this same perception. It may just be possible that your mom’s bad habit may have the same effect on you as you’re scrolling through your online feed.
What should we expect when we’re submerged in a world of sub reality?
We all watch as influencers spend vacations behind their phone’s camera. They spend their children’s birthdays behind their phone’s camera. They spend date night behind their phone’s camera. You get the point.. we are all guilty of this to a point, but I think there’s a line. Is handing your memories into the hands of strangers a prerequisite for earning a buck as an influencer?
I even have a teacher friend with a student who wrote a career paper on being a blogger when she grows up. When did this become a career option that children aspire to??
Guys, it’s tough!
Here are some things I know for a fact:
I love Jesus.
I love my family.
I try to compliment strangers.
I try to eat healthy.
I’m a work in progress.
I’d love to help babies across the world, spend my days doing roller sets + chatting with elderly ladies, blog fashion, do hair extensions, own an online clothing boutique and stay at home with my kids, all simultaneously full-time, but I just don’t have that kind of bandwidth (or attention span).
I’m not a materialist and I don’t want to play one social media.
I have a need to accomplish success in my ventures.
Here’s what I’m making of all of it: My heart is what matters. I’m not perfect, but I’m making a guided effort to keep my eyes on Jesus, build my real life relationships with others + stay positive even when I’m struggling. If my priorities are in tact, I can’t lose. I like taking you all on this journey with me, and if I sell a few dresses that promote your confidence + post things that make you think/laugh along the way, I think that’s okay too.
The struggle is real, but I’m trying to keep a good balance. My virtual world is my creative outlet + fun hobby, but never my whole life or my top priority.
So, as the Christmas décor is put away and the flowers come out, the theme here is “out with the old + in with the new..” And my Insta is no exception. I’m having fun with updating the look of my feed and I hope you like it too + continue following along.
My first 1.5 years in this world of blogging/Insta have been a fun period of trial and error and I’m glad to have you on this ride with me.
On that note, I want to do something fun for you guys! I love this gold leather bag so much that I grabbed one for one of you guys too! It’s a special edition item that was only distributed to select stores, so they are hard to come by! You can also adjust the strap to wear it as a fanny pack, if that’s your thing.
Head over to my Insta now to enter!
Shoutout to Emily of Emily Keeney Photography for all of these images! If you’re in need of a creative talent, check her out! She was super patient with our insane, high-energy kids and I’m in love with all of our images. I can’t wait to show you more of our session in upcoming posts!
Thanks to all of you for all the love over the years. It means a lot to me in this crazy + weird + challenging + somehow fun virtual space and I’m throwing it right back at you! <3